Sunday, October 16, 2016

Shattered Glass

A few months ago I told you I was going to commit to having more peaceful and encouraging speech.  You do know when you make a commitment like that, you will immediately be tested.  Well it happened to me.

I'm striving to be more intentional with the words I use.  Through a recent study, I learned that I will be held accountable for every idle word I speak.  That's right, every empty or casual word you speak, you will have to give an account to God for using it.

And I tell you this, that you must give an account on judgment day of every IDLE word you speak. ~Matthew 12:36

Here's what happened - while on vacation major damage happened to our rental car.  I was in my hotel room napping (YES, I love to nap) and I received a phone call from the front desk manager.

He informed me that damage happened to my car.  I was delirious from being asleep and didn't really get it.  Finally, I woke up and went to see the car.

Sure enough this is what I found:

HOLE in the sunroof!

Glass was everywhere


Glass was everywhere.  A large object had fallen from an upstairs floor and landed right on the sunroof. YIKES!  The MANY words that came to my head were NOT uplifting or encouraging.  I was so upset.  
BEYOND upset, because this was a rental car. 

Did I take out insurance? How would I explain this? How much would this cost? A sudden sick feeling came over me. Worry filled my head. Long story short, I'm happy to say, by the grace of God, I remained CALM.

In that moment, in YOUR upsetting moments you can't always control the situation.  There was nothing I could have done to avoid this moment. 

You can CHOOSE the response you have to the situation, even an unfair, had nothing to do with you type of moment.  That phone call, that woke me from my peaceful slumber changed the trajectory of my entire vacation.  All the great memories were suddenly overshadowed by this silly event. My peaceful morning of resting by the pool was completely shattered, just like the glass all over the front seat.

As we continue through the rest of the year, we will encounter some CRAZY and unpredictable moments.  Guess what - you can CHOOSE your response.  Pray that it will be appropriate and honoring to God. (Posted by Roslyn)

Sunday, October 2, 2016

10 Things I Learned about Hawaii!

Beaches and Pools!
A couple of weeks ago, my husband and I had a chance to visit one of the most beautiful places.  We had a get away to Hawaii for a week without our kids (thanks Mom for watching them).  I really, really missed my babies but I was thankful for the alone time with my hubby.

It was divine!

I feel like I live in paradise already. In my home state I'm surrounded by blue skies, palm trees that sway beautifully on a breezy day and the ocean is only about 45 minutes away. What's great about Hawaii though, is the unity of my two favorite landscapes, beaches and mountains. The combination of the two together make for breathtaking views and outstanding photographs!

For those who haven't visited Hawaii, maybe you can live vicariously through my experience.  I wanted to share a little about the places we visited and some things I quickly learned about the island. 

Here's a list of 10 things I learned about Hawaii:

  • Birds are everywhere and they aren't afraid of us.  They will quickly fly in and steal your lunch.
The birds will eat and drink whatever they find!

  • The homeless population is plentiful and quite visible throughout Oahu (where we visited).  I was surprised by the number of tent cities throughout the city.

  • The waters in Hawaii are dangerous!  Actually while we were in town, a local musician drowned despite his knowledge of the waters.  Strong currents can make your vacation turn into a tragedy if you're not careful.

  • Colorful exotic plants and trees grow in abundance around the island.  Birds of paradise and banyon trees are just some of the ones I took time to photograph.


  • It's very expensive to live in Hawaii.  A gallon of milk is $8.00.  Most everything is shipped in driving up the costs.

  • The spirit of "Aloha" is everywhere.  The locals are friendly and laid back. 

  • When you get a chance, here are some "must" visits:

    1. Hike Diamond Head for breathtaking views
    2. Visit Lanikai Beach.  It has extremely soft powdery clean white sand.  It

      literally feels like flour under your feet.  It consistently ranks among the best beaches in the WORLD!
    3. Snorkle in Hanauma Bay Nature Preserve.  The best snorkeling I've seen in a long time right off the shoreline.
    4. Tour Pearl Harbor
    5. Take part in an authentic luau.

Our tour guides while visitng Kailua Beach.
  • Take time to learn about the island from the locals.  Most have lived on the island for an extended period of time and know all of the hidden treasures.

  • The traffic in Oahu might be worse than Los Angeles.  80% of the population lives in the Honolulu/Oahu area.  Yikes! (Posted by Renee)

Common in Hawaii: lei's and hats

Sunday, August 7, 2016

More Peaceful Conversations

The Summer has flown by. Renee and I have enjoyed a bit of a hiatus.  I've been fortunate to spend time in South Carolina, Dallas, Key West, Naples and Orlando during this Summer break.  School is almost in session and just around the corner are cooler temperatures - Thank God!

Even though we haven't been on our blog, Renee and I have spent time this Summer reading and writing.  I had the opportunity to participate in an online session about transforming your speech.  I shied away from this assignment, at first, but I've learned so much along the way.

Even on vacation - I rest and read!

We are in a world where many people are more interested in being understood vs understanding what the other person is saying. With the amount of words that we use daily to communicate, most of us don't do it effectively.

For instance, did you know you communicate in 3 ways - verbally (WHAT you say), vocally (TONE you use) and visually (BODY language)?

In fact, 55% of our overall message is delivered through our body language. 

Here are a few of my top LOVES from this study, Conversation Peace by Mary Kassian.

  1. Conflict is inevitable, but just remain CALM.
  2. Every word you say has the power to draw HEAVEN or HELL into your circumstance.
  3. Harness the power of discretion - everything you THINK should NOT be spoken.
  4. Unfaithful speaking (gossip) is done by speaking as well as listening to gossip.
  5. Where you SAIL today, is determined by what you SAY today.
I've committed to start this new school year, specifically with my boys, by using more faithful and encouraging language.  

They will hear enough negative speech outside of the home, in the hallways of their schools. I will intentionally choose to use words that will BUILD them up and not tear them down.  (Posted by Roslyn)

What about you? What is your commitment for this new week or year of school/work?

Sunday, June 26, 2016

We are Family!

It’s been awhile since I’ve posted.  If you let it, distractions can make you lose focus and disrupt destiny.  Writing my blog posts is a way to encourage others, therefore, I need to make time for it.


I’m typing this post while returning home from my family reunion.  I’m blessed that both my mother’s and father’s side of the family have an annual reunion.  It’s such a great time to catch up and reconnect with family members. 


This weekend we came together in Warrington, Florida (near Pensacola) where my father grew up.  The city holds precious memories of a time full of laughter, love, and wonderful fun. This would be our first family reunion without the last living matriarch of the family because my dad’s twin sister passed away last year and she was the last of his 7 siblings remaining on this side of Heaven.


Our reunion starts on Friday and lasts the entire weekend.  As a family we pray, fellowship, eat, and attend church together.  We even take the time to remember our deceased loved ones and plan for the next gathering.


I wanted to share about our yearly coming together because family is so important.  Even if you are at odds with your loved ones, they are still your precious family.  Without a moment’s notice, they could be transitioned from you through death.  It would be awful if you hadn’t taken the time to reach out or forgive from afar because of petty differences.  Every relationship in life will have challenges.  It’s a part of human nature.  Just don’t allow your feelings about a situation, guide your actions.


I will leave you with some beautiful scriptures about family.  If you currently have distance between you and a family member, be encouraged.  Reach out.  Don’t allow life’s “interruptions” keep you from one of the greatest gifts God ever gave.  FAMILY! (Posted by Renee)

Psalms 127:3-5 (NIV)

Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.  Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth.  Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them.  They will not be put to shame when they contend with their opponents in court.


Ephesians 3:14-15

For this reason I kneel before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name.

1 Timothy 5:8

Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.





Sunday, April 10, 2016

How do you FIT it all in?

I am often asked this question - How do you "fit "it all in? How do you get it all done?

Life is really one big juggling act - and just for the record, I don't get it all done.  You might feel like me, as soon as you resolve one conflict another life "curveball" is right around the corner.

Life can be intense - between traveling (last month I was in New York, Philadelphia, Dallas and Tampa), cooking, writing, working, exercising, raising kids, and keeping up with my own "extracurricular" activities - life can be overwhelming.  Do you feel the same way?

I am in that season of life where most of my time is spent in a car shuffling the boys to school, baseball or driving to the grocery store. I treasure every moment as the days are passing so quickly.  My morning meditation often times happens while driving.

How do I attempt to "fit" it all in:

  1. I start with sacred mornings; my time ALONE thinking, praying, and meditating sets the tone for my day
  2. Understanding Priorities; everything can seem urgent - but make a list and focus on what is most important in that moment
  3. Nightly Reflection; at night I wrap my day with reflecting on all that God allowed me to accomplish - a heart of thankfulness helps me not worry about "what's next"
  4. Yoga - 8am on Saturday morning you will find me at yoga; beyond the poses, yoga has taught me how to meditate, focus my mind and BREATH (deeply)
  5. Learning not to rush away PAIN; the very pain that you feel brings you closer to God and elevates you for your next assignment 
  6. Repeat "I AM" statements - throughout the day I tell myself I am strong, I am well, I am at peace...Now you try it!
I am content to know that I am a WIP (Work In Progress), and so are YOU! Allow God to direct your days.  In moments of stress, most likely you aren't connected or grounded.  Sit still, practice balanced breathing, and watch how you will have a fresher perspective to handle "what's next". (Posted by Roslyn)
Take a moment to give yourself a THUMBS UP!

You are strong like a fortified city...Jeremiah 1:18

Sunday, March 13, 2016

You're Healed!

Roslyn and I love to pray for others.  It's a pleasure for us to agree with people about their individual requests.  When I reviewed some of the recent prayer requests from friends, family, and associates, I realized that many of them had a common theme. 
They needed healing!
Psalms103:2-3 shares:
Praise the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits-who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases...
This simple verse is powerful!  For many of us, it's easier to believe that our sins are forgiven but we struggle with the latter part of the verse where it shares that the Lord heals ALL our diseases. 
Our healing is a finished work of the cross.  By HIS stripes we are healed!  Don't doubt it.  Declare it in your environment, despite how you feel or the diagnosis you may have just received.  Let the following scriptures minister to your needs.  You are healed! (Posted by Renee)
  • James 5:13-15 (MSG)
13-15 Are you hurting? Pray. Do you feel great? Sing. Are you sick? Call the church leaders together to pray and anoint you with oil in the name of the Master. Believing-prayer will heal you, and Jesus will put you on your feet. And if you’ve sinned, you’ll be forgiven—healed inside and out.
  • Isaiah 53:5
But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed.
  • Matthew 9:22
22 Jesus turned and saw her. “Take heart, daughter,” he said, your faith has healed you.” And the woman was healed at that moment.
  • Acts 4:10
10 then know this, you and all the people of Israel: It is by the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, whom you crucified but whom God raised from the dead, that this man stands before you healed.

Sunday, February 7, 2016


"Why can't they see in me what I see in myself?"  
"Why can't I get that loan to start my business?" 
"How could they tell me no"? 
"Why didn't I get into that university"?  
"Will I ever get married?" 
"I've worked all my life for this, only to hear NO...UGH"

 Have you ever had moments with these type of questions?  You applied, asked for, competed, studied and the final answer was REJECTION!

You believe you possessed the ability to achieve your goal, but someone comes along and tells you NO.  It can start you down a journey of losing confidence in yourself.  You think, "maybe I'm not that good" simply because you were rejected.

Rejection is a natural part of life.  We don't always receive what we dream or prepare for. But that doesn't mean that denial is the end of the story.  Sometimes we have to put in a bit more work, try again or patiently find another path.  Don't give up!  In the midst of trying to understand WHY, you can become exhausted.  In a quest to seek an answer of WHY they said no, doesn't change the fact that no was their final answer. Don't give up!

In moments of doubt LEAN into God.  Don't give up! Just ask Him, in fact he tells us in James 1:5 - "Now if any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives to all generously and without criticizing, and it will be given to him."

Sometimes the doors of rejection lead us right into the doors of opportunity.  Don't be afraid to fail or hear the word NO.  Don't give up! Through every painful process you gain strength.  Be relentless to follow the path your Creator predestined you to have.  Don't give up! Even if your level of investment has been high, He might want you to switch and humbly follow Him to your next endeavor.

Rejection can be the catalyst that leads us right into the arms of our Savior.  Don't give up! My sister posted on Facebook a profound quote -

Things aren't falling apart, they're falling into place. Stay encouraged and trust the process! 

At the end of it all the one who said NO might be there very person cheering for you across the finish line. Oh yeah, did I forget to say - Don't Give Up! (Posted by Roslyn)