Tuesday, January 1, 2019

This IS Our Year - 2019!


Renee and I have declared that 2019 is OUR year. This year we celebrate 8 years of blogging. Eight years of being inspired by YOU, our faithful readers. We receive encouraging comments on social media and also in person about how this blog has been a blessing. We are deeply grateful for YOU choosing to read while commuting, sitting at work, sitting on your couch, sitting at the doctor's office, or even reading while on the treadmill.

This year we are committing to give inspiring advice that has helped us in the past. Many mistakes have been made. Renee and I have learned that if we don't acknowledge them, learn and heal from them, we will end up making the exact SAME mistake.

During 2019, we will cover topics such as healthy eating, motivation, mental clarity, parenting, financial wealth and exercise. Each of these topics have great meaning in our lives. We want to inspire you to constantly evolve and elevate as you move through the rest of 2019.

The lessons learned in 2018 are bountiful. Renee and I both landed in a place of complete and total rest at the end of the year due to medical surgeries. It wasn't planned, it's just the way God ordered our steps. During that time we had a chance to sit still and listen to how God was speaking to us collectively but also individually.


This 1st post of 2019 is all about your ONE word for the year. It's a word that you will use in every situation you encounter. It's a word that will ground you and keep you balanced through the ups and downs of 2019.

Last year my word was - EXPLORE. I was facing so many new chapters in my life and I didn't want to be afraid to explore a new adventure.

This year my word is - EVOLVE. I truly believe this world is changing faster than we realize. My family is dynamically maturing. Soon I will be an empty nester facing retirement. How will I continue to evolve in each of these situations?

God is making all things NEW, so I choose to continue to evolve and grow. Those things that stay the same will eventually die. I want to be on the infinite path of growing.

What about you?

What's your ONE word for 2019?

Don't make that list of resolutions that is SO hard to achieve. Just think about ONE word for your BEST year. (Posted by Roslyn)

This is our BEST year.

From our family to yours - Happy New Year!

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Sunday, December 23, 2018

We Are Making Enemies

The Christmas season is filled with people literally rolling over you just to get that perfect gift for their friend or family member. If you think I’m kidding, just try to park your car at a mall parking lot today on Christmas Eve.

Is this really the happiest season of all?

If we are honest in the last days of 2018, we ALL are motivated by SELFISH desires. For example, the craving to take constant selfies and post them on social media feeds that craving. You might say, "Roslyn I’m not selfish".

Here’s a simple question - When you are in a group photo who do you look at first? I bet the answer is YOU. We look at ourselves first because if we don’t look attractive enough we want the entire group to take another picture...SELFISH.

Here’s another example - we sit in the car line at school. Once we pick up OUR kids we purposely disobey all the school speed limits and ignore traffic signs just to get home quicker...SELFISH.

As we wrap up this year and reflect on how we pursued our goals, let’s set our hearts for a newer path in 2019. A world with more people treating others the way they want to be treated leads to a happier world. We can ALL contribute to making our communities stronger and healthier than they are now.

We can ALL have a stronger commitment to sow little seeds of gratitude and kindness, then one day a large harvest of happiness will enter our world again.

MERRY CHRISTMAS from our families to yours!

Renee and I truly wish you a holiday of joy, FUN and peace. Treasure the time with friends and family. Enjoy the laughter of the season. Please be willing to pray for those that are having a hard holiday without their loved one nearby. There are so many people within our communities that are lonely during the Christmas season. Find a way to thank our military families that consistently sacrifice and put their lives on the line so we can be free.

For a child is born to us, a son is given to us. The government will rest on his shoulders. And he will be called: Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.”

~‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭9:6‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Sunday, December 9, 2018

The Pain that Stayed

Three weeks ago I woke up to the most intense pain in my life.

Piercing. Gut wrenching. Knock you down to your knees pain.

More than the labor pains combined with both of my kids. Pain so vivid I will never forget it. I could go on and on but for the sake of time, I'll move on. Coupled with the pain was the undeniable feeling that I could faint at any moment.

I couldn't walk. I couldn't lay down. The pain continued to pierce.

Typically if I feel pain I take pain meds to make it go away so I can move on with my day. I have a small tolerance for pain so this was way more than I ever wanted to feel. Oh, did I forget to share that this all happened at 6am in the morning and I was scheduled to speak on stage at my church at 11:15 am. The topic was, "Life vs. Chaos". This was true chaos and I needed my Healer to rescue me.

Last day of hospital stay

After rolling on the floor in pain, I woke my husband and we headed to the emergency room because I needed the pain to STOP but instead, it stayed! The ER visit started me down a path of some of the most chaotic moments of my life.

I took a lesson from that day that I won't quickly forget. In those moments, I realized that my pain served a major purpose. It awakened me to the fact that something was terribly wrong and I needed help. Especially since, outside of that pain, there wasn't anything that foreshadowed the turn of events.

I couldn't mask the pain. I couldn't move beyond the pain. It was the pain that "stayed" and thus, saved my life.

That pain forced me to seek medical assistance.

Although we never want to feel hurt or pain, at times, it serves a major purpose. It illuminates the fact that something isn't right physically or even emotionally. I clung to my belief that God was with me and He would see me through the entire situation. Thank God the situation that caught me off guard, didn't catch my Savior by surprise. 

Some of you are experiencing pain right now. It's intense and you keep ignoring it.


Seek the assistance you need knowing that God is right there with you. We're reminded of this fact in I Peter 4:12-19. It shares that in this life, we will have trouble, pain and chaotic  situations but God is right there with us. You are not alone. In your painful moments, here are some verses to comfort and encourage:

I Peter 5:9-10:

9Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that the family of believers throughout the world is undergoing the same kind of sufferings. 10And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.

Deuteronomy 31:8

8The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged."

Psalms 50:15

15and call on me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you will honor me."

Psalms 6:2

2Have mercy on me, LORD, for I am faint; heal me, LORD, for my bones are in agony.

(Posted by Renee)

Wednesday, November 21, 2018

Our MOST special Thanksgiving!

My Wombmate!

Our MOST Special Thanksgiving!

Today is the day when many will enjoy a feast full of incredible Fall dishes. You walk into any Thanksgiving host home and the smells of Fall enter your nostrils making you even more hungry than when you arrived.

There is so much activity that will happen around the Thanksgiving table - some people will rummage through retail circular ads planning their Black Friday shopping strategy. The tv, for some, is playing the coveted Thanksgiving Day football games. The kids will catch up swapping school stories as they countdown to Christmas break. Then there is the group that will debate the latest pop culture events and politics. In their opinion, they will solve the world’s greatest problems.

Well for Renee and I, this week has been a test of grit, resiliency, faith and a reminder of our incredible bond. I know many of you have siblings but the bond between identical twins is something short of amazing.

Renee and I can finish each other sentences. We innately cook dinner around the same time at night. We randomly wear the same outfits, even though we live in different cities. We giggle at the same jokes. We have a hidden coded language. We roll our eyes in the same way. We fiercely encourage each other during life's toughest moments. Early on my kids would call her mama and vice versa if they hadn’t looked up to see who was standing in front of them. Our mannerisms are the same, our speech equally eloquent and our face has almost identical features.

I’ve often been asked, “Do you feel her pain?” 

The answer to that question has always been unequivocally YES. This week a turn of events escalated and I realized quickly that my sister, my twin, my wombate was in DEEP distress. That intuition was right and Renee ended a hospital stay just yesterday.

This Thanksgiving, Renee and I shout from the rooftop our appreciation for LIFE. This IS our MOST special Thanksgiving. We are blessed that each of us get the opportunity to live and see another day, not taking ANY part of this holiday for granted.

In that spirit, we wish each of you a day filled with laughter, food, FUN and family. Our hearts have prayed for weeks for those experiencing a different type of Thanksgiving because of death, pain and loss. God is your comforter.

We will both share our incredible journeys in upcoming blogs, but for NOW we just praise Jesus for life, health and strength. (Posted by Roslyn)

Give us today our daily bread.” 
~Lord’s Prayer

Happy Thanksgiving from our family to each of YOU!

Tuesday, November 6, 2018

The Morning After

If you live here in the United States it is the morning after one of the most polarizing Mid Term elections. The democratic process has spoken and the winners in each race, for the most part, have been declared.

Some of us had our candidate WIN and some of us had our candidate LOSE, now what?

First, realize that all hope is NOT lost. We now shift our focus to praying for each of the elected officials. They have the steep task of making good on ALL those campaign promises. As we know some things are easier said than done. When our elected officials succeed, WE win no matter their political party.

Second, salvation will NOT come from a party or a single candidate. It will take ALL of us digging in to start the necessary change at home. It starts at home. I have many friends that are teachers and they all say the best training starts at home. Schools are NOT the sole answer to kids problems. In the same way that government is NOT the answer to all of our problems either.

We CAN commit to have a higher level of kindness as we go about our daily tasks. We must have the discernment to know when to speak UP and when to shut UP.  In certain circumstances, silence can be more powerful than speaking and degrading someone else. Love will speak louder than hate.

Finally, victory comes from the Lord. David says it best:

Victory comes from you, O Lord.
May your blessings rest on your people.
Psalm 3:8

Breathe! If you really are that unhappy know that time marches on. This too will pass. Be encouraged that in the best and worst of our days in this country, the United States is still here. God Bless America!

I am leaving you with a gift-peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give isn’t like the peace the world gives. So don’t be troubled or afraid.” John 14:27

Thursday, November 1, 2018


The 2018 midterm election is looming. There are some people that feel it doesn’t matter, nothing seems to change. Some might feel numb, desensitized and indifferent to what is currently happening to our society.

Are the rules of decency being rewritten?

I feel anxious, after 3 hate crimes in 1 week - what is next?

Who will help preserve Mother Earth?

What WORLD am I leaving for my kids?

The answer to many of those questions are answered as we evoke our democratic process and VOTE. Don’t become indifferent to the state of affairs around you. Don’t be lulled into any false sense of security.

Your VOTE matters. 

Renee and I take it seriously and spend weeks educating ourselves on the Amendments, the candidates, their platform and their priorities. Don’t rely on news outlet or negative ad sound bites. Do your OWN research and find the candidate that best speaks to YOUR unique needs.

If you are feeling afraid or anxious in light of the recent attacks of domestic terrorism - here is a scripture that has helped me (thank you Felicia). I use it as part of my daily affirmations.

But when I am afraid, I put my trust in you! ~Psalm 56:3

Sunday, October 21, 2018

I'm Pissed!

I'm sure the title of my post offends some, however, it's the only word strong enough to share my level of disappointment and frustration over today's political environment.

What happened to the days when we could sit down together and have a decent debate about our views? Sometimes we agreed and sometimes we didn't. So what! We would just agree to disagree and move on.

Not today.

This political environment is different. Way different.

A difference of opinion today means that a person is judged for their beliefs. We're judged by how we vote, what we feel about the issues and where we choose to get our news from. If you believe in one Republican ideal you're labeled a Conservative. If you side with some of the Democratic ideals you're labeled a Socialist or Liberal. There's no middle ground or moderate voice in today's political dialogue.

What happened?

Whether you believe it or not, families are being torn apart. Friends are falling out and it's all because of a difference of opinion.

Are you kidding me? A darn difference of opinion?

Siblings aren't speaking, parents won't visit their children and friends refuse to even speak. Social media is a big part of the problem. We read someone's post or tweet and we immediately form an opinion. We don't sit down with the person to try and talk through their concerns or beliefs. We instead judge and stew in rage.

The enemy of God's Kingdom, Satan, is crafty and deceitful. He's using this environment to his advantage by wreaking havoc all along the way. I'm not even talking about those who aren't Christian. I'm describing those individuals within the body of Christ. I guess that's why God shared the following in 2 Chronicles 7:14....

If My people who are called by My name put away their pride and pray, and look for My face, and turn from their sinful ways, then I will hear from heaven. I will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.

This text of scripture starts with one key word, IF! That means that we, as a body of believers, have a decision to make. He didn't start with the word "when". Instead it starts with the word "if". It's as if God knew, some of us would and some of us wouldn't. Just think about what would happen if we followed the advice in this scripture.

How different would our world be if we:

  • put away pride (the need to be right)
  • prayed and 
  • turned from sin

We have ONE purpose during our time on this Earth. We are commanded to share the gospel of Jesus Christ and win souls for Christ. That's it! We are not here to defend our political position, argue with "friends" on Facebook about their political position or promote a candidate at the expense of others. That's not our ultimate purpose. I'm not saying we aren't to be involved in the political landscape. We instead must always remember that we want to be an invitation to Christ.  If our words, tweets, or Facebook posts push others from our Savior, what's the point? You got your political point across but at what cost?

Might I suggest:

  • Stay away from political posts and tweets if crafted out of anger or impulse
  • Don't comment on political posts if your words are hurtful and mean
  • Have an open minded conversation with someone who differs in your political view
  • Listen more than you talk when conversing

Don't allow your actions to further the work of the enemy! He knows his purpose and he will use any scheme or tactic to throw us off our God given purpose.

My prayer is for unity. The change that I want to see, starts with me, not the Republicans or Democrats! (Posted by Renee)

Matthew 28:20 (NIV)

Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching the to obey everything I have commanded you....