Sunday, August 7, 2016

More Peaceful Conversations

The Summer has flown by. Renee and I have enjoyed a bit of a hiatus.  I've been fortunate to spend time in South Carolina, Dallas, Key West, Naples and Orlando during this Summer break.  School is almost in session and just around the corner are cooler temperatures - Thank God!

Even though we haven't been on our blog, Renee and I have spent time this Summer reading and writing.  I had the opportunity to participate in an online session about transforming your speech.  I shied away from this assignment, at first, but I've learned so much along the way.

Even on vacation - I rest and read!

We are in a world where many people are more interested in being understood vs understanding what the other person is saying. With the amount of words that we use daily to communicate, most of us don't do it effectively.

For instance, did you know you communicate in 3 ways - verbally (WHAT you say), vocally (TONE you use) and visually (BODY language)?

In fact, 55% of our overall message is delivered through our body language. 


Here are a few of my top LOVES from this study, Conversation Peace by Mary Kassian.


  1. Conflict is inevitable, but just remain CALM.
  2. Every word you say has the power to draw HEAVEN or HELL into your circumstance.
  3. Harness the power of discretion - everything you THINK should NOT be spoken.
  4. Unfaithful speaking (gossip) is done by speaking as well as listening to gossip.
  5. Where you SAIL today, is determined by what you SAY today.
I've committed to start this new school year, specifically with my boys, by using more faithful and encouraging language.  

They will hear enough negative speech outside of the home, in the hallways of their schools. I will intentionally choose to use words that will BUILD them up and not tear them down.  (Posted by Roslyn)

What about you? What is your commitment for this new week or year of school/work?

Sunday, June 26, 2016

We are Family!


It’s been awhile since I’ve posted.  If you let it, distractions can make you lose focus and disrupt destiny.  Writing my blog posts is a way to encourage others, therefore, I need to make time for it.

 

I’m typing this post while returning home from my family reunion.  I’m blessed that both my mother’s and father’s side of the family have an annual reunion.  It’s such a great time to catch up and reconnect with family members. 

 

This weekend we came together in Warrington, Florida (near Pensacola) where my father grew up.  The city holds precious memories of a time full of laughter, love, and wonderful fun. This would be our first family reunion without the last living matriarch of the family because my dad’s twin sister passed away last year and she was the last of his 7 siblings remaining on this side of Heaven.

 

Our reunion starts on Friday and lasts the entire weekend.  As a family we pray, fellowship, eat, and attend church together.  We even take the time to remember our deceased loved ones and plan for the next gathering.

 

I wanted to share about our yearly coming together because family is so important.  Even if you are at odds with your loved ones, they are still your precious family.  Without a moment’s notice, they could be transitioned from you through death.  It would be awful if you hadn’t taken the time to reach out or forgive from afar because of petty differences.  Every relationship in life will have challenges.  It’s a part of human nature.  Just don’t allow your feelings about a situation, guide your actions.

 

I will leave you with some beautiful scriptures about family.  If you currently have distance between you and a family member, be encouraged.  Reach out.  Don’t allow life’s “interruptions” keep you from one of the greatest gifts God ever gave.  FAMILY! (Posted by Renee)



Psalms 127:3-5 (NIV)

Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.  Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth.  Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them.  They will not be put to shame when they contend with their opponents in court.

 

Ephesians 3:14-15

For this reason I kneel before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name.

1 Timothy 5:8

Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

 

 

 

 

Sunday, April 10, 2016

How do you FIT it all in?

I am often asked this question - How do you "fit "it all in? How do you get it all done?

Life is really one big juggling act - and just for the record, I don't get it all done.  You might feel like me, as soon as you resolve one conflict another life "curveball" is right around the corner.

Life can be intense - between traveling (last month I was in New York, Philadelphia, Dallas and Tampa), cooking, writing, working, exercising, raising kids, and keeping up with my own "extracurricular" activities - life can be overwhelming.  Do you feel the same way?

I am in that season of life where most of my time is spent in a car shuffling the boys to school, baseball or driving to the grocery store. I treasure every moment as the days are passing so quickly.  My morning meditation often times happens while driving.

How do I attempt to "fit" it all in:

  1. I start with sacred mornings; my time ALONE thinking, praying, and meditating sets the tone for my day
  2. Understanding Priorities; everything can seem urgent - but make a list and focus on what is most important in that moment
  3. Nightly Reflection; at night I wrap my day with reflecting on all that God allowed me to accomplish - a heart of thankfulness helps me not worry about "what's next"
  4. Yoga - 8am on Saturday morning you will find me at yoga; beyond the poses, yoga has taught me how to meditate, focus my mind and BREATH (deeply)
  5. Learning not to rush away PAIN; the very pain that you feel brings you closer to God and elevates you for your next assignment 
  6. Repeat "I AM" statements - throughout the day I tell myself I am strong, I am well, I am at peace...Now you try it!
I am content to know that I am a WIP (Work In Progress), and so are YOU! Allow God to direct your days.  In moments of stress, most likely you aren't connected or grounded.  Sit still, practice balanced breathing, and watch how you will have a fresher perspective to handle "what's next". (Posted by Roslyn)
Take a moment to give yourself a THUMBS UP!

You are strong like a fortified city...Jeremiah 1:18

Sunday, March 13, 2016

You're Healed!



Roslyn and I love to pray for others.  It's a pleasure for us to agree with people about their individual requests.  When I reviewed some of the recent prayer requests from friends, family, and associates, I realized that many of them had a common theme. 
 
They needed healing!
 
Psalms103:2-3 shares:
 
Praise the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits-who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases...
 
This simple verse is powerful!  For many of us, it's easier to believe that our sins are forgiven but we struggle with the latter part of the verse where it shares that the Lord heals ALL our diseases. 
 
WHY?
 
Our healing is a finished work of the cross.  By HIS stripes we are healed!  Don't doubt it.  Declare it in your environment, despite how you feel or the diagnosis you may have just received.  Let the following scriptures minister to your needs.  You are healed! (Posted by Renee)
 
  • James 5:13-15 (MSG)
 
 
13-15 Are you hurting? Pray. Do you feel great? Sing. Are you sick? Call the church leaders together to pray and anoint you with oil in the name of the Master. Believing-prayer will heal you, and Jesus will put you on your feet. And if you’ve sinned, you’ll be forgiven—healed inside and out.
 
  • Isaiah 53:5
But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed.
 
  • Matthew 9:22
 
22 Jesus turned and saw her. “Take heart, daughter,” he said, your faith has healed you.” And the woman was healed at that moment.
 
  • Acts 4:10
10 then know this, you and all the people of Israel: It is by the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, whom you crucified but whom God raised from the dead, that this man stands before you healed.


Sunday, February 7, 2016

I WAS REJECTED!

"Why can't they see in me what I see in myself?"  
"Why can't I get that loan to start my business?" 
"How could they tell me no"? 
"Why didn't I get into that university"?  
"Will I ever get married?" 
"I've worked all my life for this, only to hear NO...UGH"



 Have you ever had moments with these type of questions?  You applied, asked for, competed, studied and the final answer was REJECTION!

You believe you possessed the ability to achieve your goal, but someone comes along and tells you NO.  It can start you down a journey of losing confidence in yourself.  You think, "maybe I'm not that good" simply because you were rejected.

Rejection is a natural part of life.  We don't always receive what we dream or prepare for. But that doesn't mean that denial is the end of the story.  Sometimes we have to put in a bit more work, try again or patiently find another path.  Don't give up!  In the midst of trying to understand WHY, you can become exhausted.  In a quest to seek an answer of WHY they said no, doesn't change the fact that no was their final answer. Don't give up!

In moments of doubt LEAN into God.  Don't give up! Just ask Him, in fact he tells us in James 1:5 - "Now if any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives to all generously and without criticizing, and it will be given to him."

Sometimes the doors of rejection lead us right into the doors of opportunity.  Don't be afraid to fail or hear the word NO.  Don't give up! Through every painful process you gain strength.  Be relentless to follow the path your Creator predestined you to have.  Don't give up! Even if your level of investment has been high, He might want you to switch and humbly follow Him to your next endeavor.

Rejection can be the catalyst that leads us right into the arms of our Savior.  Don't give up! My sister posted on Facebook a profound quote -

Things aren't falling apart, they're falling into place. Stay encouraged and trust the process! 

At the end of it all the one who said NO might be there very person cheering for you across the finish line. Oh yeah, did I forget to say - Don't Give Up! (Posted by Roslyn)


Sunday, January 31, 2016

I've Been Naughty!!

2015 Christmas Photo
Mt. Dora, FL
Photo Credits: Delana Brooks


It's been quite some time since I posted.  I looked back and realized that I last posted in November.  I'm so thankful that our blog is a joint effort and my sister held it down for the past few months.  My world is a little chaotic with two kids in sports, finishing up studies for a industry designation all while being a mom, wife, chef, church & community volunteer.  Whew!  I'm tired just thinking of it.

This was supposed to be a post at Christmas but I never found the time to post it.  I still feel inclined to share it so here we go.....

During the holidays, my 7 year old son asked, "Mom, have I been naughty?"  My initial thought was, "of course you have" but I didn't want to crush him.  I figured he was asking because it was the holidays and a common question is, "have you been naughty or nice?"  In the American tradition, Santa Clause knows if you've been naughty or nice.  It would be easy to assume that if you've been naughty, he's not coming to your house for a visit. 

Well that stinks!  I've been naughty.  Heck, we all have.  So now what?

(Yes, All have sinned; all fall short of God's glorious ideal-Romans 3:23 TLB)

That's the problem with conditional love, it's only available when you meet certain terms.  Thank God for Jesus!  His love is unconditional, unfailing, and forever.  It doesn't matter how much you mess up, he still loves you.  He is full of grace!  His love is not dependent on whether or not you read the Bible, attend church or treat your neighbor kind.  All of that is fantastic but his love is deeper than acts of service.  In Psalms 86:5, it shares about this special love.

O Lord, you are so good and kind, so ready to forgive, so full of mercy for ALL who ask your aid.
 
 
In this new year, Roslyn and I pray you come into true relationship with Christ.  He's longing to have you receive His LOVE! (Posted by Renee)
 
 
Romans 6:23
 
For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.
 


Sunday, January 10, 2016

Honor and Respect YOUR Journey

With the power of social media, we can be captivated by the lifestyle of others (celebrities, friends, acquaintances, etc.).  When we do this, we lose sight of the journey that has been carved out just for us.  We can mature into a space where we accept where we are (reality) and then decide to make small steps as a catalyst for greater change.

In my last post, we talked about the excuses we use to derail achieving our New Year's Resolutions.  It's been less than 14 days, have you remained true to the goals you set for yourself?  Ok, back to my original point.

When we view our life through the lense of someone else, we lose focus of our own journey. We want to RUSH our results and sidestep our road to success.

We must HONOR AND RESPECT our own journey!

When we finally get to the gym, we can look at the sizes and shapes of those around us.  If we focus on the one that "weighs" less than us or runs faster than us, then we think our body shape or personal time on the treadmill can't ever change.  We must put one foot in front of the other and create our own NEW body.  Run your OWN race.  Don't try and keep up with the pace of someone else.

As you move forward into 2016, don't let the sights and sounds of others derail your own personal growth.  Slow down, listen to the voice inside of you and take small steps towards achieving the goals you set for yourself. (Posted by Roslyn)

Here are a few ways that Renee and I EAT healthier:

  1. COOK for yourself - Let go of fast food (cooking allows you to control the ingredients inside your meal)
  2. PACK a snack - (eating small meals constantly aids in losing weight)
  3. RAW foods ROCK (minimize the amount of foods consumed from packages)
  4. EAT breakfast (give your metabolism a boost even if it is just peanut butter on an apple)
  5. STOP eating 3 hours before bed (laying down on an full stomach - NO good)