Sunday, February 11, 2018

We Still Do!

A few weeks ago, I told you I would be attending a marriage conference. Tyjuan and I (by the grace of God) will celebrate 23 years of marriage in October. We have been together for almost three decades and this was our first time participating in a marriage conference. I love that it was on the heels of Valentine's Day. Most men and ladies are gearing up for the "day of love" on Wednesday, February 14th.

This conference was everything I thought and needed it to be. The crescendo of the event was Tyjuan and I renewing our wedding vows. Almost 23 years ago we said them at our wedding ceremony in Orlando, Florida. But this past Saturday was different. We actually knew what we were saying. The day of your actual wedding was pure adrenaline. The dress, the cake, the guests, the minister, the flower, the party, the limo and all of it leaves you wanting more.

ALL that money, ALL that planning and within 4-5 hours it is OVER.




Roslyn and her father
October 28, 1995



Tyjuan, groomsmen and ring bearer

I wanted to share a highlight from the XO conference. It was livestream to over 450 host sites, both domestically and internationally. Many couples shared the date of 2.10.18 as their wedding renewal ceremony.

Marriage, really any relationship, is about being a servant to one another (thank you Jimmy Evans). The union of matrimony is a covenant between husband and wife. I learned that just as Jesus came to serve us, we must serve our spouse in many different ways to be successful. Maybe it's preparing his favorite dinner, partaking in his favorite hobby or just listening to what makes his heart tick. In the same way, he listens and seeks ways to create those special moments for me. Not because we want to or understand the reason for a request, but we serve each other because it's necessary for a happy marriage. There is no "I" spirit in marriage, but a "we" spirit.

February 10, 2018 we choose to say, "we still do"! 


This is us now!
February 10, 2018

How can you take the spirit of Valentine Day and carry it throughout the rest of the year? How can you create a special moment for someone who doesn't have spouse, but is in need of your companionship?

Our world is in desperate need of those willing to NOT just think of themselves. That's what a servant is. Renee and I wish you a loving, caring and safe Valentine Day. May God be present and more importantly, may you know that He is with you. You are His and He is yours. (Posted by Roslyn)

Thursday, February 1, 2018

EXPLORE something new

Happy New Year! This is my first post of 2018 and it's already February. I've missed being with each of you. Maybe you read this blog while commuting, home with a cup of coffee or on your office desktop. Renee and I are deeply honored to be apart of your life and sharing our unique adventures with you.

Today is our 7th year of blogging. We started with our 1st post on 2.1.11. Time just evaporates doesn't it?

Every year my friends and I decide NOT to make resolutions. Instead, we choose ONE word that will help shape and frame our new year. In the past, a list of resolutions would have us defeated in the first week of January. Choosing ONE word allows us to have an anchor and focus in every circumstance we will face in the upcoming months.  My word for 2018 is:

EXPLORE

Wouldn't you agree that with every passing day we are in unchartered waters? Our world and this country is changing fast. Technology is disrupting many industries and our days are often spent wishing we had more hours to complete mundane tasks.

This year will be a year of 1st for me:

  • Son graduating from high school
  • Sister opening her own State Farm agency
  • New role at work
  • Son starting college in August
  • Attending a marriage conference (yup that's a first for me)

Tyler is heading to college
#abrandNEWworld

I can't be afraid to explore the world around me. In all honesty, with all these new 1st I am AFRAID.  Ahh, there is freedom in saying that. But being courageous is not the absence of fear. It's moving forward in the face of fear. I want to be open to the next assignment God has for my life. Being a mother of a child in the home will feel different as I get ready to parent a child leaving my physical home. But I refuse to squelch his excitement because of my own selfish want to keep him home.

Hebrews 13:5 let's me know that God is always with me. He promises never to leave me. He is stronger than any evil force that tries to evoke fear in our world. I daily choose to listen to His voice and not the voice of skepticism and fear. I pray that 2018 will be the year that you and I truly discern when to be silent and when to be bold. I want to learn when to activate or when to stand still. 

Are you ready to scratch that list of resolutions? Aren't you tired of drinking those green smoothies? 😀 Seek to find a word that will frame your 2018. (Posted by Roslyn)

Sunday, January 21, 2018

HOW I LOST 11 POUNDS-PART II

Lunch: Fresh Guac, Tuna Salad & Veggies
Last week I shared about my 11 pound weight loss. I shared four small changes that made a tremendous difference in my health. If you missed it, no worries. Here you go!

Since that post, I've received a few requests to share a little more about my diet during the past few months. Let me just say, I don't believe in diets. They come and go and never seem to work for me. Instead I make healthier choices one meal at a time. About 80% of my meals came from the following list (see below). I'm not a nutritionist and I urge you to consult with your physician before making any changes in your diet and exercise.





Eating off this list made it easy to maintain. I also fully believe in cheating on any plan. Instead of a cheat day, have a cheat item. No matter what you decide, keep it simple!


Meat;
Chicken
Turkey
Salmon
Shrimp
Eggs
Pork
Pepperoni

Side Dish: Roasted Veggies
Veggies:
Squash
Carrots
Arugula
Romaine
Asparagus
Greens
Mushrooms
Spinach
Bell pepper
Onion
Cucumber
Green Beans
Tomato
Cabbage
Zucchini

Carbs:
Sweet Potatoes
Brown or Wild Rice

Fruit:
Apples
Bananas
Blueberries
Lemon
Lime
Nectarines
Orange
Strawberries

Sweetner:
Lunch: Egg salad, Apples & Veggies
Stevia

Drinks:
Green tea
Water lemon

Dairy:
Unsweet Almond Milk

Cooking Oil:
Extra Virgin Olive Oil

Fats:
Avocado
Cashews
Butter

Nuts:
Cashews
Pistachio
Walnuts
Pumpkin Seeds
Sunflower Seeds
Almonds

Sweet:
Cacao (Dark Chocolate)

Remember, small changes lead to BIG results. Don't discount the power of giving up just 200-300 calories each day. Maybe one less soda or sweet treat. Set small goals. Start by giving up one item the first week. Give up a second item the next week in addition to the item that you gave up the first week. Aim to lose 1-2 pounds in a month and in just 6 months, you will be down 6-12 pounds. Even better, in a year, those small changes could total nearly 24 pounds or more! Stay inspired! (Posted by Renee Scott)

3 John 1:2
Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well.




Sunday, January 14, 2018

HOW I LOST 11 POUNDS!

BEFORE
I've always embraced my body's curves and edges. A little extra love handle never really freaked me out. I'm comfortable in my own skin and I don't feel the need to be the skinniest chick in the crowd. I exercise, eat fairly healthy and take care of my body. Last year during a routine physical, I was made aware of my blood pressure being on the high side. It wasn't crazy high, but it was elevated. My physician asked me to eat less sodium, continue to exercise and return in three months for a follow up to see if it would make an impact on my numbers.


In a matter of minutes, I quickly realized why high blood pressure is called the "silent killer".




AFTER


I didn't feel sick or anything. I needed to lose weight to help combat this concern. It was time to take action. Over the next few months, I implemented a few things that made a tremendous difference. Before I share, realize there's no silver bullet with weight loss. You've got to do the work. Speak with your physician and find out what eating plan works best with your body. For me, three easy adjustments made it happen. Here they go:

I Ate Less

  • Less sodium
  • Smaller portions
  • Reduced the number of times I ate at restaurants
  • More fresh fruits and veggies cooked at home
  • Kept it simple: good protein source + veggies + fruit + complex carb
  • Reduced sugar intake

I Exercised more

  • Consistency with exercise (4-5 days/week)
  • Variety in exercise (Zumba, Walking, Running, Hip Hop Dancing & Strength Training)

Accountability with Friends & Family

  • My sister held me accountable to workouts and eating less sodium
  • Posted workouts in Facebook accountability workout groups (running & eating groups)
  • Saturday morning runs with a buddy

I quickly realized that sodium was almost like poison to my body. Even with the weight loss, I was prescribed medication to help regulate my pressure. Fortunately my echocardiogram evaluation came back normal indicating there wasn't any permanent damage to my heart. I will continue to keep my sodium intake low, my exercise days consistent and control my portions. Prayerfully this post encourages you to take just one step towards a healthier lifestyle! (Posted by Renee)


Sunday, November 19, 2017

Season Of Gratitude

Thanksgiving is here and that means the 2017 holiday season is in full swing. The level of activity increases for most people. Holiday parties, gifts to buy, recipes to try, family dinners and cards to mail add to our level of stress this time of year.

There is a way to change your mental health during this stressful time of year. Today my Pastor spoke from I Thessalonians 5:16-18 and it has the perfect prescription for success.

Always be joyful.
Keep on praying.
No matter what happens, always be thankful...

Shifting our thoughts to gratitude helps us focus on what is here versus what is missing. It grounds us to truly understand the real reason for the holiday season. Although someone else might win that coveted parking spot at the mall, or skip you in line at the grocery store always be joyful, keep on praying and always be thankful.

This Thanksgiving, can you find at least three reasons to be thankful? 

Well here is my list:


  1. Family
  2. Friendship
  3. Protection
It's that simple. 

What is on your thankful list this holiday

Once you compile it, keep pondering it in your heart. Every morning and night recite at least three things you are thankful for. Sometimes, we can feel we are in a horrible situation only because our focus is solely on the negative circumstance happening. But remember, there is always a reason to give thanks. 

I listened to Pastor Frank that leads First Baptist Church in Sutherland Springs, Texas. He preached a week after a massacre that took 26 of his parishioners, including his 14 year old daughter. His words gave me a newfound belief that gratitude in the midst of hurt and pain DOES exist

He told his congregation one week after the tragic church massacre to "stand, clap and praise the Lord." What incredible spiritual maturity! He understands that in all circumstances to keep on praying, always be joyful and always be thankful. 

From our family to yours, Renee and I wish you a Thanksgiving filled with laughter and gratitude. For those of you experiencing deep loss and sadness we are praying with you for comfort during this tough time of the year. (Posted by Roslyn)


Sunday, October 29, 2017

In God we Trust. Really?

U. S. Flag

Everyday we are bombarded with images of division and evil in our country. Sometimes you walk away from the television wondering, are we really one nation under God? Why does it seem like we are moving further and further away from God? I now realize, from my own personal journey,  one important fact.





To be healed from your past, you must confront the painful areas that are buried deep. 

That's true in my life, your life and it's true for our country. The journey to uncover and deal with your past can be dark, often hurts and maybe full of tears. However, it's all necessary to adequately complete the healing process.

Three years ago I found myself in a broken place. During a women's conference I attended, God brought me to my knees. It was sudden and unexpected. There was a broken area of my life that I never confronted. My way of coping was to bury my feelings and not deal. God had a different plan.

In that moment during the conference, the memory of it all came flooding back and I knew a season of brokenness was on the horizon. 

To give myself the time needed to heal, I stepped down from church responsibilities and allowed God's gentle whispers to restore my soul, piece by piece. If you find yourself in a dark place with images of your past invading your mental space, remember that God is your healer and He wants nothing more than your FREEDOM!

My situation relates to what we see happening in our country today. The darkness, pain, division and confusion that we witness each and everyday is a reflection of an unpleasant and nasty history that is now bubbling to the surface so that we can confront, deal and heal.


Racism, bigotry, and hate is not new.


It's been here and if you haven't been a victim of it, count yourself blessed. Could it be, we're going through the uncovering and unmasking of these ills in our society because there's restoration on the way? That's what I believe. Don't worry or fret about what you see in the world today. God is in control and He doesn't waste any experience to be used for His glory. Be mindful that He is not the author of evil. It was inevitable when sin entered this world. God is merciful and loving and desires that none should perish. Not even you!


Remember, you cannot heal what you won't confront.





Our country will only grow stronger in unity once we return to our foundation in God and focus on brighter days. Colossians 4:2 commands us to continue praying, keeping alert and always thanking God. As you trust Him with every fiber of your being, He will make changes in this nation. Remember, in God we trust! (Posted by Renee)

Sunday, October 8, 2017

I am for ME!

Isn't it easy in our world to ONLY be focused on ME - my plans, my agenda, my preferences, my reputation, my kids, etc. At this point you can have anything customized to your taste, from the food you eat in a restaurant, the temperature in your home, smartphone screen and even the firmness of your mattress. It's all designed to fit your taste.

How can I NOT be focused on myself when everyone else is?

Magazines, billboards, gyms, and commercials plead with you to take time for yourself. But it really will mean more revenue for them if you spend money on their products that they highly suggest you need in your life.

It is easy for me to look around and associate with only those that look, talk and agree with my way of thinking. But is that helping the greater good of humanity?

How can WE be positive and light in a dark world, if we didn't expand our own borders to include those that are different from us?

There will always be those in the world that don't agree with you. Don't distance yourself from them. Your treatment of them in a loving and kind way, EVEN when they don't agree, shows them an alternative way to be treated.

You can't change them! You can only change your response to them.

Sometimes we have to just agree to disagree.

I realized I was isolating myself from those that were different. I was pro ME, pro my religion, pro my race, pro my political party, etc. I fell into the trap like so many Americans. We are all different and that is the beauty that makes us unique.

Choose not to isolate yourself from those that have a different political party, different race, different religion or different views of life.

Embrace Diversity

My yoga buddies

Diversity adds to our uniqueness

Now more than ever we have to wrap our head, heart and minds around understanding our differences. I've found when you do, guess what, you start to realize you are more alike than you are different.

Find the common ground you have with others. It could be love of scrapbooking, photography, running, yoga, fishing, reading, sports, gaming, etc. Let that lead your conversations NOT what you don't like about each others view on life. (Roslyn)

When I am with those who are oppressed, I share their oppression so that I might bring them to Christ. Yes, I try to find COMMON GROUND with everyone so that I might bring them to Christ. I do all this to spread the Good News, and in doing so I enjoy its blessings. ~I Corinthians 9:22-23