Sunday, September 16, 2018

You Have More TIME Than You Think

"I don't have time for that."
"Sorry I can't come, I am too busy."
"I wish there were more hours in my day."
"I will have to decline that invitation, my schedule is packed."
"Oh gosh, so sorry that I am late (again)."
"I picked up the phone to call you, but started working on something else and forgot."


Have you said any of these statements lately? For most of us, they are common comments or thoughts when we are frustrated that we are running OUT of time. Our schedules are packed with activities, meetings and deadlines. Our kids social calendars creep into our overflowing calendar and missed appointments are bound to happen.

This Summer I was inspired to take on a reading challenge. Now reading is something I love to do but like most people, rarely find the time to do it. A team member told me I needed to make edits in my life so that I could find time to read, find time to do something I loved.

Did she NOT realize I was planning 4 graduation parties, preparing to take a son to college AND flying all over the East coast?

Well I agreed to read a book she suggested. Within a few minutes I was sucked in, learning that not having enough time is just a MYTH. I thought that BOLD statement was ridiculous.

Calling something "work" does not make it important or necessary...OUCH (that was on page 5) 
excerpt from 168 Hours by Laura Vanderkam

I went onto finish that book and learned how to EDIT from my schedule many items that were time wasters. As with any therapy or self help book, the information given is only as good as you make it. I had to do the hard work (which included keeping a time log) to take an honest look at my schedule and activities.

Time is a nonrenewable resource. Taking on this challenge took discipline. But discipline is what is needed in our distracted world.
Summer Reading 2018

We all have the same 168 hours, it's just about how YOU choose to use them. The Summer progressed and I read 6 books + my Bible, which was a HUGE step forward. I realized that I DID have time for those things I prioritized in my life. (Posted by Roslyn)


What will you CHOOSE today - Time wasters or Time savers?


Sunday, September 9, 2018

Back to the Basics!




If you're connected to me on Facebook, you've noticed that I post a hymn every Sunday. Although I love gospel and contemporary Christian music, there's just nothing like the singing of a hymn to remind you of the goodness of God. Most hymns originated in the middle of a test or trial. They were sung in an effort to set the atmosphere to enter into the presence of God.

One of the most popular hymns, "Amazing Grace", was written in the 1700's at a time when the author was in the midst of a turbulent storm that battered his sailing vessel. He cried out to God for mercy. It was a moment that led to his spiritual conversion.





In a day and time when our world is full of anxiety, uncertainty, and trying times, we MUST go back to the basics. If you wonder what that looks like, here's my suggestion:

KEEP IT SIMPLE!

1. Pray continually
2. Remain focused on God (not your problem)
3. Sing hymns
4. Stay thankful

Here are scriptures that reinforce the necessity of getting back to the basics:

Colossians 3:16 (NLT)

16 Let the message about Christ, in all its richness, fill your lives. Teach and counsel each other with all the wisdom he gives. Sing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs to God with thankful hearts.


Philippians 4:8  (ESV)

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

Philippians 4:6-7 (ESV)

The Lord is at hand; do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

(Posted by Renee)


Saturday, August 25, 2018

Permission To Cry

The inevitable happened, Tyler went off to college. I was a stay at home mother for the first 7 years of his life. Time has evaporated and I kissed my son goodbye as he headed back to his dorm just 2 weeks ago. #YIKES

Although Tyler remains my son and will come home often, the thought of him being out of the house had my nerves on edge (that's MY truth) this year.  There are many of my friends that previously talked about this feeling. Well, I was now in the position to experience it firsthand. I constantly thought:

How will I adjust to 1 less child in the home?

Does that actually mean buying LESS groceries? 😀

Who will NOW entertain our younger son?

Will he want ME to play Fort Nite?

Being a mom has defined me for the past 18 years. I remember when I left to attend the University of Florida, I did not return back to my mom's house. I got married right after college and started working upon graduation. I guess it's what a mother wants for her child, I'm just confused on how I arrived to this point so quickly. I mean, am I really 18 years OLDER?

Can I just HOLD him forever?
I was intentional this Summer to take time off work and just sit in the presence of my children. Of course they found it annoying, but I found it comforting. I've taken individual trips out of town with each child just to connect with them on their level.

Parenting in 2018, I find, is one of the HARDEST jobs on the planet. This generation is BOLD, influential and have NO problem telling you "what they won't do."


I didn't know what to expect during that final emotion when he moved into his dorm room. I teared up for months just thinking about it. I was overwhelmed with emotion during graduation but felt more excited and proud than sad. I didn't cry then, but this time around I needed permission to CRY. I kept telling myself, they will have to scrape me off the ground when I tell him goodbye.

Many moms simply told me, "you'll be fine Roslyn. He's only 2 hours up the road." Well in actuality grieving happens not just because of death but also separation. For any mother walking through this process - you have PERMISSION to cry and grieve the separation from your adult children. (Posted by Roslyn)



Teach your children to choose the right path, and when they are older, they will remain upon it. 
~Proverbs 22:6


Sunday, August 19, 2018

Don't Pray?

Prayer is a conversation with God. It's an opportunity for us to talk to Him and for Him to talk to us. It's two-way communication and it should be continual as you move throughout each day. The God of the Universe, provides us the magnificent opportunity to have a conversation with Him! He wants to hear about our joys and victories and comfort us when life gets downright difficult.


Here's the thing though, DON'T pray and then worry.


It's like oil and water. They don't mix. They were never meant to exist together.




If you're going through a difficult time, please pray about your situation and give it to God. He wants to take the cares of your world away but you must release it to Him. If you keeping worrying about the situation then you're doubting his ability to handle it.

Philippians 4:6-7 shares the following:

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.

I want you to read this passage of scripture over and over. Read it until it sinks in and changes how you're handling your current situation. Several points are key in these verses. They provide a road map to peace in your heart and peace in your mind


  • Don't be anxious (fear or worry)
  • PRAY
  • Petition (ask)
  • Stay thankful
  • Present your concerns to God

We're told in 3 different ways to just tell God about our situation (pray, petition, present). It's simple. Trust a holy God to carry you through. He will never leave you or forsake you. I promise. Just trust Him with ever fiber of your being. (posted by Renee) 


Sunday, July 15, 2018

WHO has time to think?

The boys are wrestling, running, and screaming in the house often during Summer. Most of the screaming comes from their constant disappointment while playing Fort Nite. I find it hard to THINK when noise levels are high.



Come to think of it - WHEN was the last time I had the opportunity to think?

The world is moving so fast. In just a month the kids will be back in school. There are many unnecessary items that fight for our attention. If we get a moment to ourselves, we don't sit in silence and think. NO we reach for our the tv, Neflix or our phone to see the latest notification or email that came into our inbox. A red traffic light, in 2018, isn't time to think either. It's now time to scan email, buy a pair of shoes, respond to a text, turn on the music or apply makeup.

WHEN was the last time YOU had the opportunity to think?


Carving out space to think is important for our mental health. It is very tempting to use a silent moment to peruse through social media BUT that can lead to wasted time. Some of the greatest innovations in our life came when someone took the time to THINK. Now that the fast paced world is crowding out that time, we must be more intentional to find and leverage it.

Some of the problems and challenges you face can be solved if you allowed yourself time to creatively THINK and come up with a solution. Be courageous to follow your inner voice. So many other voices clamor to tell you what to do. THINK for yourself. Allow God to guide your thinking. It is amazing what five minutes of breathing, listening and thinking can do for our inner soul. (Posted by Roslyn)

This week we encourage you just to THINK! #ponderathought

Thinking is the hardest work there is, which is probably the reason why so few engage in it. 
~Henry Ford

Sunday, July 8, 2018

Never Alone

Most Saturday's I wake up early and head to the trail for a 6 mile walk with my dear friend. We always seem to cry, pray and laugh together. We pray for each other, our families, and just life in general.


A few Saturday's ago, my heart was heavy and I was overwhelmed by life. We were walking and talking but my mind kept drifting back to my worries. My mind was anxious and I couldn't even focus on what she was saying. Instead of holding it in, I was transparent and shared my concerns and situation. Even though she's walking through her own difficult situations, she immediately started to pray for me. Those few moments of prayer provided encouragement and a renewed strength.




A weight was lifted off my shoulders.


My perspective changed and I moved from anxious thoughts to grateful thoughts.


I realized in a deeper way that:

  • prayer always works
  • prayer in partnership with others is a mighty weapon

The results you're looking for aren't always immediate but prayer always works! There is so much that God protects us from. He not only protects us but He also goes before us to prepare the way. Our natural minds can't even fully conceive how much our faithful prayers touch Heaven.


Praying by yourself is one thing but praying in connection with others is POWERFUL! The prayer I couldn't pray for myself, she could. Even in that moment, God knew what I needed and He provided.


Here's my conclusion, we were NEVER meant to do life alone. We were created to be in relationship with each other. Each day we are bombarded with challenges, tests and trials. Even those with a mature relationship in Christ struggle. As my pastor recently shared in a message, God WILL give us more than we can handle because in our weakness He is our strength.

If you're going through difficult times and you are withdrawing from life, find a small circle of friends or family members that can surround you with prayer and intercede on your behalf. Here are some scriptures of encouragement:

Ephesians 6:10 - Be strong in the Lord and in His mighty power.

Philippians 4:6-7 - Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by PRAYER and PETITION, with THANKSGIVING, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

(Posted by Renee)

Sunday, July 1, 2018

I Don't Recognize This Country

I am thrilled that the holiday week is upon us. Today is Canada Day and on Wednesday (July 4th) the United States will celebrate our independence. Our freedom as a country. July 4th is such a celebratory holiday where the day is long and the grills are wafting some incredible aromas in the air. People happily stay up late for fireworks and holiday shenanigans with friends and family.


BAD NEWS:

I try to look at the news daily for edification on the latest events. This year I'm realizing there is so much I don't recognize about our country. The constant bickering on the news really, I mean REALLY upsets me. People no longer take the time to research the facts of a story. Water cooler discussions at work have turned UGLY. Many are just a passionate imitation of what they see on the nightly news.

I don't recognize why people love a political party more than their love of GOD and country.

The human spirit is alive and well if you open your eyes to see it. The news curates a world that has limited and extreme views on both sides instead of seeking out the stories that inspire and motivate Americans to positively keep moving forward as a nation.

My mom has always said, "If you look for dirt long enough on anyone, you will find it." We CAN choose to embrace the positive spirit within our country. It's just a choice we have to make.

Why do we all CRAVE such negative stories? We tell ourselves, "I don't watch it." BUT we know that is really far from the truth - we might not watch it, but we sure are reading those notifications on our phone.

GOOD NEWS:

This holiday, Renee and I will CHOOSE to celebrate the freedom we have. We will celebrate the heroes that enable us to live and thrive in the greatest country on earth. Nothing will EVER break the human spirit, NOTHING. As I travel from state to state, I see and feel the love that people have for our country and each other. That is what inspires and motivates me.

GOD Bless America!

Stay encouraged, not based on the circumstances you see. Stay encouraged because God truly loves you unconditionally. From the highest mountaintop experience to your lowest valley and everywhere in between, GOD is there with open arms. History happens in cycles, and soon we will be in another "cycle". Stand strong, be bold and enjoy celebrating FREEDOM! (Posted by Roslyn)


From us to you - Happy 4th of July!