Tuesday, November 6, 2018

The Morning After

If you live here in the United States it is the morning after one of the most polarizing Mid Term elections. The democratic process has spoken and the winners in each race, for the most part, have been declared.

Some of us had our candidate WIN and some of us had our candidate LOSE, now what?

First, realize that all hope is NOT lost. We now shift our focus to praying for each of the elected officials. They have the steep task of making good on ALL those campaign promises. As we know some things are easier said than done. When our elected officials succeed, WE win no matter their political party.

Second, salvation will NOT come from a party or a single candidate. It will take ALL of us digging in to start the necessary change at home. It starts at home. I have many friends that are teachers and they all say the best training starts at home. Schools are NOT the sole answer to kids problems. In the same way that government is NOT the answer to all of our problems either.

We CAN commit to have a higher level of kindness as we go about our daily tasks. We must have the discernment to know when to speak UP and when to shut UP.  In certain circumstances, silence can be more powerful than speaking and degrading someone else. Love will speak louder than hate.

Finally, victory comes from the Lord. David says it best:

Victory comes from you, O Lord.
May your blessings rest on your people.
Psalm 3:8

Breathe! If you really are that unhappy know that time marches on. This too will pass. Be encouraged that in the best and worst of our days in this country, the United States is still here. God Bless America!

I am leaving you with a gift-peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give isn’t like the peace the world gives. So don’t be troubled or afraid.” John 14:27

Thursday, November 1, 2018


The 2018 midterm election is looming. There are some people that feel it doesn’t matter, nothing seems to change. Some might feel numb, desensitized and indifferent to what is currently happening to our society.

Are the rules of decency being rewritten?

I feel anxious, after 3 hate crimes in 1 week - what is next?

Who will help preserve Mother Earth?

What WORLD am I leaving for my kids?

The answer to many of those questions are answered as we evoke our democratic process and VOTE. Don’t become indifferent to the state of affairs around you. Don’t be lulled into any false sense of security.

Your VOTE matters. 

Renee and I take it seriously and spend weeks educating ourselves on the Amendments, the candidates, their platform and their priorities. Don’t rely on news outlet or negative ad sound bites. Do your OWN research and find the candidate that best speaks to YOUR unique needs.

If you are feeling afraid or anxious in light of the recent attacks of domestic terrorism - here is a scripture that has helped me (thank you Felicia). I use it as part of my daily affirmations.

But when I am afraid, I put my trust in you! ~Psalm 56:3

Sunday, October 21, 2018

I'm Pissed!

I'm sure the title of my post offends some, however, it's the only word strong enough to share my level of disappointment and frustration over today's political environment.

What happened to the days when we could sit down together and have a decent debate about our views? Sometimes we agreed and sometimes we didn't. So what! We would just agree to disagree and move on.

Not today.

This political environment is different. Way different.

A difference of opinion today means that a person is judged for their beliefs. We're judged by how we vote, what we feel about the issues and where we choose to get our news from. If you believe in one Republican ideal you're labeled a Conservative. If you side with some of the Democratic ideals you're labeled a Socialist or Liberal. There's no middle ground or moderate voice in today's political dialogue.

What happened?

Whether you believe it or not, families are being torn apart. Friends are falling out and it's all because of a difference of opinion.

Are you kidding me? A darn difference of opinion?

Siblings aren't speaking, parents won't visit their children and friends refuse to even speak. Social media is a big part of the problem. We read someone's post or tweet and we immediately form an opinion. We don't sit down with the person to try and talk through their concerns or beliefs. We instead judge and stew in rage.

The enemy of God's Kingdom, Satan, is crafty and deceitful. He's using this environment to his advantage by wreaking havoc all along the way. I'm not even talking about those who aren't Christian. I'm describing those individuals within the body of Christ. I guess that's why God shared the following in 2 Chronicles 7:14....

If My people who are called by My name put away their pride and pray, and look for My face, and turn from their sinful ways, then I will hear from heaven. I will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.

This text of scripture starts with one key word, IF! That means that we, as a body of believers, have a decision to make. He didn't start with the word "when". Instead it starts with the word "if". It's as if God knew, some of us would and some of us wouldn't. Just think about what would happen if we followed the advice in this scripture.

How different would our world be if we:

  • put away pride (the need to be right)
  • prayed and 
  • turned from sin

We have ONE purpose during our time on this Earth. We are commanded to share the gospel of Jesus Christ and win souls for Christ. That's it! We are not here to defend our political position, argue with "friends" on Facebook about their political position or promote a candidate at the expense of others. That's not our ultimate purpose. I'm not saying we aren't to be involved in the political landscape. We instead must always remember that we want to be an invitation to Christ.  If our words, tweets, or Facebook posts push others from our Savior, what's the point? You got your political point across but at what cost?

Might I suggest:

  • Stay away from political posts and tweets if crafted out of anger or impulse
  • Don't comment on political posts if your words are hurtful and mean
  • Have an open minded conversation with someone who differs in your political view
  • Listen more than you talk when conversing

Don't allow your actions to further the work of the enemy! He knows his purpose and he will use any scheme or tactic to throw us off our God given purpose.

My prayer is for unity. The change that I want to see, starts with me, not the Republicans or Democrats! (Posted by Renee)

Matthew 28:20 (NIV)

Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching the to obey everything I have commanded you....

Sunday, September 16, 2018

You Have More TIME Than You Think

"I don't have time for that."
"Sorry I can't come, I am too busy."
"I wish there were more hours in my day."
"I will have to decline that invitation, my schedule is packed."
"Oh gosh, so sorry that I am late (again)."
"I picked up the phone to call you, but started working on something else and forgot."

Have you said any of these statements lately? For most of us, they are common comments or thoughts when we are frustrated that we are running OUT of time. Our schedules are packed with activities, meetings and deadlines. Our kids social calendars creep into our overflowing calendar and missed appointments are bound to happen.

This Summer I was inspired to take on a reading challenge. Now reading is something I love to do but like most people, rarely find the time to do it. A team member told me I needed to make edits in my life so that I could find time to read, find time to do something I loved.

Did she NOT realize I was planning 4 graduation parties, preparing to take a son to college AND flying all over the East coast?

Well I agreed to read a book she suggested. Within a few minutes I was sucked in, learning that not having enough time is just a MYTH. I thought that BOLD statement was ridiculous.

Calling something "work" does not make it important or necessary...OUCH (that was on page 5) 
excerpt from 168 Hours by Laura Vanderkam

I went onto finish that book and learned how to EDIT from my schedule many items that were time wasters. As with any therapy or self help book, the information given is only as good as you make it. I had to do the hard work (which included keeping a time log) to take an honest look at my schedule and activities.

Time is a nonrenewable resource. Taking on this challenge took discipline. But discipline is what is needed in our distracted world.
Summer Reading 2018

We all have the same 168 hours, it's just about how YOU choose to use them. The Summer progressed and I read 6 books + my Bible, which was a HUGE step forward. I realized that I DID have time for those things I prioritized in my life. (Posted by Roslyn)

What will you CHOOSE today - Time wasters or Time savers?

Sunday, September 9, 2018

Back to the Basics!

If you're connected to me on Facebook, you've noticed that I post a hymn every Sunday. Although I love gospel and contemporary Christian music, there's just nothing like the singing of a hymn to remind you of the goodness of God. Most hymns originated in the middle of a test or trial. They were sung in an effort to set the atmosphere to enter into the presence of God.

One of the most popular hymns, "Amazing Grace", was written in the 1700's at a time when the author was in the midst of a turbulent storm that battered his sailing vessel. He cried out to God for mercy. It was a moment that led to his spiritual conversion.

In a day and time when our world is full of anxiety, uncertainty, and trying times, we MUST go back to the basics. If you wonder what that looks like, here's my suggestion:


1. Pray continually
2. Remain focused on God (not your problem)
3. Sing hymns
4. Stay thankful

Here are scriptures that reinforce the necessity of getting back to the basics:

Colossians 3:16 (NLT)

16 Let the message about Christ, in all its richness, fill your lives. Teach and counsel each other with all the wisdom he gives. Sing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs to God with thankful hearts.

Philippians 4:8  (ESV)

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

Philippians 4:6-7 (ESV)

The Lord is at hand; do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

(Posted by Renee)

Saturday, August 25, 2018

Permission To Cry

The inevitable happened, Tyler went off to college. I was a stay at home mother for the first 7 years of his life. Time has evaporated and I kissed my son goodbye as he headed back to his dorm just 2 weeks ago. #YIKES

Although Tyler remains my son and will come home often, the thought of him being out of the house had my nerves on edge (that's MY truth) this year.  There are many of my friends that previously talked about this feeling. Well, I was now in the position to experience it firsthand. I constantly thought:

How will I adjust to 1 less child in the home?

Does that actually mean buying LESS groceries? 😀

Who will NOW entertain our younger son?

Will he want ME to play Fort Nite?

Being a mom has defined me for the past 18 years. I remember when I left to attend the University of Florida, I did not return back to my mom's house. I got married right after college and started working upon graduation. I guess it's what a mother wants for her child, I'm just confused on how I arrived to this point so quickly. I mean, am I really 18 years OLDER?

Can I just HOLD him forever?
I was intentional this Summer to take time off work and just sit in the presence of my children. Of course they found it annoying, but I found it comforting. I've taken individual trips out of town with each child just to connect with them on their level.

Parenting in 2018, I find, is one of the HARDEST jobs on the planet. This generation is BOLD, influential and have NO problem telling you "what they won't do."

I didn't know what to expect during that final emotion when he moved into his dorm room. I teared up for months just thinking about it. I was overwhelmed with emotion during graduation but felt more excited and proud than sad. I didn't cry then, but this time around I needed permission to CRY. I kept telling myself, they will have to scrape me off the ground when I tell him goodbye.

Many moms simply told me, "you'll be fine Roslyn. He's only 2 hours up the road." Well in actuality grieving happens not just because of death but also separation. For any mother walking through this process - you have PERMISSION to cry and grieve the separation from your adult children. (Posted by Roslyn)

Teach your children to choose the right path, and when they are older, they will remain upon it. 
~Proverbs 22:6

Sunday, August 19, 2018

Don't Pray?

Prayer is a conversation with God. It's an opportunity for us to talk to Him and for Him to talk to us. It's two-way communication and it should be continual as you move throughout each day. The God of the Universe, provides us the magnificent opportunity to have a conversation with Him! He wants to hear about our joys and victories and comfort us when life gets downright difficult.

Here's the thing though, DON'T pray and then worry.

It's like oil and water. They don't mix. They were never meant to exist together.

If you're going through a difficult time, please pray about your situation and give it to God. He wants to take the cares of your world away but you must release it to Him. If you keeping worrying about the situation then you're doubting his ability to handle it.

Philippians 4:6-7 shares the following:

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.

I want you to read this passage of scripture over and over. Read it until it sinks in and changes how you're handling your current situation. Several points are key in these verses. They provide a road map to peace in your heart and peace in your mind

  • Don't be anxious (fear or worry)
  • PRAY
  • Petition (ask)
  • Stay thankful
  • Present your concerns to God

We're told in 3 different ways to just tell God about our situation (pray, petition, present). It's simple. Trust a holy God to carry you through. He will never leave you or forsake you. I promise. Just trust Him with ever fiber of your being. (posted by Renee)