Thursday, October 30, 2014

Fun Friday...Be Someone Else

Friday is Halloween and many people are buying costumes, props, and makeup just to dress up like someone else.  For instance, I walked into my chiropractor's office today and this conservative man was dressed as Kanye West.  

It's the one time of the year where we truly celebrate the ability to BE SOMEONE ELSE.  Renee and I wish you a fun and safe holiday.  (Posted by Roslyn)

My hubby as an aspiring break dancer

Sunday, October 26, 2014



I know what you are thinking...that's a strong statement.  But whether you want to admit it, people really can be dysfunctional.  You start off as their friend, spouse, child, coworker and then quickly realize that something changes the more you know them.  Don't worry, people think the same about me and you.

We are all human and have the natural propensity to make mistakes.  We say words that offend, don't return a phone call, annoy our sibling, become to busy to invest in a friendship, or even betray a loved one.  The list could go on and on.

No matter who we are, we are ALL a part of the human race.  We cry, breath, love, reason, and feel a myriad of emotions.

How can dysfunctional people be in functional relationships?  

Tough question, but start with realizing that everyone is different.  Don't expect every one to think or always agree with you.  We live in a world full of different races, cultures, political beliefs, traditions and history.  One way is not superior to another way.  Along the journey of life, we will change course many times.  That's why we should be thankful for an abounding measure of grace.

As the song says , "It takes different strokes to rule the world."

Seek to love others through the eyes of God.  Don't see people just as flesh and blood, skin and bones.  See them as spiritual beings in your life for a reason, season or a lifetime.  No matter how hurtful or wonderful your time is with someone, that relationship was given to you for a life lesson.  

Lastly, realize that every human has different levels of capacity.  Think about the different size ziploc bags we use to store items.  Some of us have gallon size personalities and some have pint size capacity.  We are all important but have a different levels of ability to respond, nurture, learn, function and love.  The frustration becomes when your gallon size personality tries to tell your BIG dreams to someone who doesn't share your common goal or initiative as you (pint size).  Don't worry, they just have a DIFFERENT level of capacity.

Through life's ups and downs, relationships can be functional.  Just remember to allow a measure of grace in all of your relationships.  (Posted by Roslyn)

Dysfunctional hair day...but a functional relationship w/my twin!

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

My Battle with Fibroids

Today I thought I would share my story on "Awareness Wednesday".  I normally don't get this personal on the blog but the more I share with others about my health challenges from 2012, I realize it's a common battle that several women face.

My journey began on January 1, 2012.  I distinctly remember being positioned on my mom's couch in the fetal position.  The position helped to minimize the pain I was feeling on a day when I should've been out catching the final hours of New Year's day shopping.  For some reason, my monthly feminine occurrence was heavy and the stomach cramps were brutal.  I wasn't quite sure why a monthly occurrence was different this time around but it was noticeably different.  With each passing month, my symptoms became worse.  I didn't take the time to see my gynecologist because I just figured it was the result of getting older.

By October of that year, I'm sure my sister was tired of hearing my complaints.  I wasn't getting better and I felt like the excessively heavy flow and stomach cramps were just my new norm.  Finally Roslyn insisted that I visit the doctor.  I finally agreed.

I wasn't prepared for the information the doctor was getting ready to share.  After several exams, she confirmed that I had several fibroids.  They were causing my discomfort month after month.  I'd heard about fibroids, but I didn't know much about my condition.  Here's 6 quick facts:

  1. Fibroids are non-cancerous (benign) tumors that grow from the muscle layers of the uterus (womb). 
  2. They affect at least 20% of all women at sometime during their life.
  3. Women aged between 30 and 50 are the most likely to develop fibroids. 
  4. African American women are at an even greater chance of developing them.
  5. Hormones released during a woman's reproductive years are normally the culprit for fibroid growth. 
  6. When estrogen levels are high, especially during pregnancy, fibroids tend to swell. When estrogen levels are low fibroids may shrink, e.g. during menopause.

My choice to delay visiting with my gynecologist necessitated the need to have a hysterectomy.  (If you missed the post about my surgery experience, here you go.)   I really didn't have any other options.  At this point, I didn't care. 

I just wanted my life back.  I was tired of being in pain.  Tired of looking pregnant (due to increased uterus size).  Tired of wearing black in case of an accident.  Tired of being a prisoner in my own body.

I'm fortunate that I'd already given birth to my beautiful babies and we were confident we didn't want anymore.  Some ladies find out this information early in their lives before they even have a chance to get pregnant.  If fibroids are found early there are several options. This link shares some valuable information about various treatment alternatives. 

I have three (3) goals with this post:
  1. Let you know that you're not alone.
  2. Save you from making the mistakes I made.  Don't wait to share your condition with your physician.
  3. Declare that God is your healer!

What if the woman from Matthew 9:20-22 (NIV)  had a blood issue caused by fibroids? Whether she did or not, she provides a perfect example of God's healing power.  Read her story below.  

20 Just then a woman who had been subject to bleeding for twelve years came up behind him and touched the edge of his cloak. 21 She said to herself, “If I only touch his cloak, I will be healed.”
22 Jesus turned and saw her. “Take heart, daughter,” he said, “your faith has healed you.” And the woman was healed at that moment.
God's not only able to heal, He's willing! (Posted by Renee)

Sunday, October 5, 2014

Apple Fall Inspiration

The weather where I live has turned a few degrees cooler.  It's starting to feel like Fall is in the air. I was inspired by Ree Drummond (Pioneer Woman) on the Food Network.  She used six pounds of apples to make yummy recipes.

The apple recipe appealed to me because my oldest son has started eating applesauce before school.  He leaves so early in the morning and just needs a fast snack to coat his stomach.  

Homemade applesauce is the perfect way to accomplish on the go eating.


  1. 5-6 pounds of apples (honey crisp or golden delicious)
  2. Ground cinnamon (1 teaspoon)
  3. Brown sugar (1 firmly packed cup)
  4. Lemon juice (juice from 1/2 lemon)
  5. Water (1 cup)

Start with Honeycrisp or Golden Delicious Apples

Peel and core the apples - this tool was bought at my local grocery store

The tool allows the core to be removed and the apple is sliced into 8 equal parts

Put cut apples into a pot with 1 cup of water

Cook on medium high heat about 15 minutes until the apples are soft
Add in the brown sugar & cinnamon and mix thoroughly  

Let the warm apples cool for 5 minutes
Place in a blender or food processor
Puree to the perfect texture
Store warm applesauce in a glass jar
Cool and place in refrigerator if not used immediately

The warm applesauce can be eaten alone or drizzled over ice cream.  This morning the cooled applesauce was used in an Apple pancake recipe.  The large batch of applesauce  can be used in many ways - Happy Fall! (posted by Roslyn)  

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