Sunday, June 30, 2013

What's coming in the door?

I'm attracted to a beautiful entry way.  Walking up an inviting walkway with beautiful flowers and bright colors puts a since of peace in my heart when I enter an unknown space.

There are so many shows on television now that deal with curbside appeal.  What you see on the outside of a home, immediately informs you if you want to make an entrance into the rest of the property.  A yard that is covered by weeds and overgrown plants is obviously not as appealing as a home with a well manicured yard.  Curbside appeal is inviting and lures you to walk through the door to view the rest of the house.

I've been reading some history books with the boys. I appreciate learning about the ancient cultures.  Many cities were surrounded by city walls or gates to keep the citizens protected from the enemy. The wall/gate provided one way in and out to keep track of who was entering and leaving the city.  It fortified the area from the adversary that would sneak in and try to destroy the grounds.  It provided the perfect defense to an attack.  If the wall came down, the city would lie in ruin.

A doorway provides an opening into a room in the same way our heart provides an opening into our innermost being.  Our world bombards us with so many corrupt images, thoughts, media, words, and billboards so that now we have a world that has succumb to the "dark" side.

My girlfriends and I recently watched a movie and within 10 minutes the movie began with pornography, sex and intoxicating drug and alcohol abuse.  This was a movie that had been nominated for numerous Academy awards but the images it provided were horrifying.

We must guard, like the city wall, what we allow into our head space and our hearts.  What we allow to gain entrance will have total access and free reign of us.  We articulate words and wonder how something so vile can come from our mouths, but what have we allowed to come in.  There is a beautiful Proverb that is full of wisdom and truth:

Above all else, guard your heart, for it affects everything you do. ~Proverbs 4:23

Q:  Have you let your guard down?  What or who has been able to gain total access because you let them in?

Take some time today to identify the "intruders" in your life.  These would be thoughts or people that came without an invitation.  Negative thoughts and dysfunctional people can drain and leave you with nothing.  Fortify your grounds, protect your heart and regain your sense of peace and control.  (Posted by Roslyn)

Sunday, June 16, 2013

This week I...

Tyler and Roslyn
This week I become the mom of a teenager.  I'm just not sure what to expect.  I am certain every parent has felt this way as they enter:


I have an amazing son, but I've been warned that this can change.  I just pray his loving foundation keeps him grounded and focused on chasing after his God given goals and dreams.  I often speak about how fast these years have flown by. I only get this ONE chance with him to succeed in parenting.  I don't want to fail at the most precious job I have.

Here I sit with a child at the crossroads of leaving childhood and entering into becoming an adult.  This past week my boys were able to attend Vacation Bible School (VBS).  The theme was, "Stand Strong For God."  That is my deepest desire and prayer that he will always stand strong for God, even when it is not popular.  Our world is moving fast and the foundation we lay for our kids will help them navigate through life's ups, downs and even the turbulent teenage years.

I will always be his greatest and loudest cheerleader.  I will always run on his journey alongside him.  I love the moments when we just talk.  I'm starting to think he talks to his dad more so the carved out times I have with him are just precious.  During those conversations I try to listen, not judge and let him do all the talking (not so easy for me).  I want to be emotionally and physically present in my son's life.  That means I must put down the phone, turn off the computer and find a way to connect with him on his level.  Remember, I only have one chance at this mom thing so:

Happy 13th Birthday to Tyler!

And of course, Happy Birthing Day to me.  If you are a mom of a teenager, what's your advice to me?  Leave me a comment on Facebook, Twitter or the blog and let me know.  (Posted by Roslyn)

Saturday, June 15, 2013

Happy Father's Day - 2013

Double Portion Inspiration would like to wish all the dads  


"It is a wise father that knows his own child."
~William Shakespeare

Sunday, June 9, 2013

Saying Goodbye

I was recently in the airport on my way to Charlotte, North Carolina.  A woman and her family caught my eye as I waited for TSA officers to wave me through the security line.  This woman's son was saying goodbye as he was shuffled through a body scan and bag checks.  I instantly laughed because she pulls out her cell phone and starts snapping all these photos of him.  There wasn't much to take a picture of at 5:00am but she just kept snapping.

Of course, I don't know the entire story but this was obviously her son and he was heading into a new chapter in his life.  The family was there to cheer him on, but most importantly say goodbye.  The young teenage girls with this mom kept shaking their head in embarrassment.  It really was a cute scene.  No matter how much they laughed at her, she just kept taking her pictures.  After I had time to think about this scenario playing out in front of me, I became sad.

A mom saying goodbye to her boy...oh gosh one day that would be ME!

Now let me tell you, this was  a 6'3" baby boy but nonetheless he was her precious son.  My reality set in that my boys are growing so quickly and I will soon say goodbye to them.  I've viewed so many graduation pictures on Facebook from various people.  What a huge accomplishment - high school/college graduation.

With every goodbye comes a brighter hello.  

I'm not sure where his final destination would take him, but he was excited.  The mom showed a sad face but the tall son was all smiles.  A bright future was in front of him.  He would no longer be under the wings of his mom.  Nope, he was leaving the nest.

As an adult, we've all been there.  I remember saying goodbye to my parents, after leaving for the University of Florida.  I was only 17 years old and never returned home after that to live with my parents.  I married right after college graduation and started working.  A bright future was ahead of me then and it still is today.  My mom was able to find peace in the fact that her girls were off to college.  She knew God would take care of us. Of course their were tears, but you move forward step by step in faith.

We all have people or children we need to say goodbye to.  Even if that goodbye is sending them away on the first day of Kindergarten.  We can't keep them in the nest always.  Never grieve saying goodbye, celebrate and focus on the bright future that is ahead of them.

From Double Portion Inspiration: CONGRATULATIONS to all our 2013 graduates!  (Posted by Roslyn)

Sunday, June 2, 2013

My Top 3 Parenting Scriptures

The red velvet birthday cake was delicious!

I love posting about my kids.  I reviewed some previous posts and realized that most of them were about our youngest.  With him being 4 years old, it's easy to write about his adventures.  Well today, I'm writing all about my daughter.  The past seven days have been amazing for her.  She turned 11 this week and it's hard to believe how rapidly time flew.  Even though people always tell you to enjoy each moment because they fly by quickly, time still seems to evaporate when raising kids.

Not only did she turn 11, she also:
  • Finished her track season by reaching personal goals in the long jump & 400 events
  • Completed her 8th year of dance with a beautiful recital performance
  • Promoted to 6th grade (middle school-YIKES!)
The activities of this week allowed me to reflect on her beautiful life.  It hit me that in only seven years, she will be an official adult and leaving the nest.  That means only seven years to pour my filtered wisdom into her.  Seven years to move from managing her life to being her "consultant" as God writes a story in her life.  Seven years until childhood ends and adulthood begins.

God's word will guide my parenting actions.  I won't always get it right but in those moments when I don't, I will let her know mommy made a mistake.  I am fighting for her heart. 

Here's my top 3 parenting scriptures:

  • Proverbs 22:6Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.
  • Proverbs 29:15
    Wise discipline imparts wisdom; spoiled adolescents embarrass their parents.
  • Ephesians 6:4
    Fathers, don’t exasperate your children by coming down hard on them. Take them by the hand and lead them in the way of the Master.
Our daughter will be the sum total of her experiences.  Every aspect of our teaching will shape her life.  We are the biggest influence in her life. 

Not school.  Not other kids.  Not even teachers.  Us.  (Posted by Renee)