Sunday, September 29, 2013

Every Scar Has A Story

I hate when I get hurt.  It is always so painful and the process to healing seems longer than it should.  I'm not talking about a paper cut type of pain.  I'm referring to deep pain that leads to an ugly wound or scar.

If you ever endured any type of pain from a fall, climbing, burn, etc., you know the scars that remain are icky.  They go through many stages - blood, scab, puss, and oozing.  When you hurt yourself, the place that once was free from pain now makes a public announcement to the world that you hurt yourself.  I truly hate if this happens to a visible part of my body.  I will always have to explain to others the reason why I have that scar.

Every scar has a story.  

It speaks to a hurt that has physically left but the remnants of the past are still there. I remember having to receive surgery on my hand to remove a cyst.  I drove a far distance just to be with a specialist who was known for not leaving scars after surgery.  I wasn't so concerned about the logistics of the procedure.  I knew with the right "drugs", pain would go away.  Instead, I was overly concerned about the scar on my hand.  I didn't want it to show dominantly and mess up the cosmetic look of my hand, so I chose a plastic hand surgeon.

Some scars leave with a little tender loving care, like cocoa butter or aloe treatment.  But some stay forever.  You will have them with you until you die.  They will constantly be a reminder of the pain you endured.

Scars are reminders.  They trigger in our thoughts the pain of our past.  

Scars can be external but the deepest wounds are often internal where no one can physically see them.  Verbal abuse, harmful words, manipulation, deception are all scars that bury themselves as little seeds deep within our soul.

If we don't heal from the hurt of our past, the scar can manifest itself negatively into our physical words, behaviors and actions.  Have you ever met someone who just is angry for no reason?  Do you have an addiction that has a stronghold over you?  These are signs that the person is carrying a deep scar that no one sees.

PATH TO HEALING:  The hurt of our past needs to be released.  When the memory of the pain bubbles up - it is hurtful.  That trigger brings back emotions we thought we left behind.  We must feel the pain to eventually be restored to health.  Don't be afraid to stand in the truth of your ugly wound - because when you do, you open yourself up for healing. Now that's freedom!  (Posted by Roslyn)

God will provide those who grieve...beauty instead of ashes, joy instead of mourning.. ~Isaiah 61:3

Sunday, September 15, 2013

Prune Like Passion

Does this look like your passion?
I'm not a huge fan of prunes, in fact, I feel most people only consume them if they have constipation or belly issues that they are trying to remedy.  This isn't a pretty thought and neither is passion that has "dried" up.

Yesterday, I received a text from a dear friend that asked, "What happened with you & your sister writing a book?"  The question was so simple but also challenging.  I sat on my couch (watching college football) coming up with so many excuses in my head.  I said to myself, "Doesn't she know that I'm a travel baseball mom, wife, runner, blogger, manager, leader at church, etc".  In that moment, I realized I had stopped pursuing the dream (within myself) of becoming an author.  It all came down to this - my passion dried up just like prunes.

Now, to be clear...I still absolutely love writing. I am addicted to words and hang on to them because words hold the power to create change. The ability to express my thoughts through this blog and reach readers across the globe is still very humbling to me. BUT...the blog was designed to be a catalyst for Renee and I to co-author a non-fiction book.

What happens in our pursuit of a dream is, during the "process" of that dream becoming a reality, our passion and initial zeal somewhat goes by the wayside.  Some of us don't even use our energy to create or imagine a dream.  We become comfortable.  Chasing a dream is very uncomfortable.  It's a journey filled with ups, downs, success, failure and rejection.  The bright light that once set your heart on fire, now has dimmed.  We allow fast paced lives, busy schedules and distractions to derail or delay our plans. I'm a woman that doesn't procrastinate but I surely will put a project on the back burner if there is no concrete deadline to meet.

Any goal or dream that you set requires sacrifice and hard work.  For instance, if you set out on a path to lose weight, you will sacrifice eating foods that your body craves so you can achieve your goal.  Individuals that are disciplined, usually take that focus into every area of their life.  Here's my question to you:

Are you green and growing OR ripe and rotting?

We can never stop advancing and flourishing .  We must reinvent ourselves if we've become stagnate.  Even as adults, we possess the ability to learn.  As a leader, I avidly read leadership books to accelerate the passion I have to inspire and influence others.  

My dear friend, YOU are a leader and you have influence - influence with coworkers, influence on a sports field, influence over your spouse and family.  Those people are counting on you to be at the top of your game.

What happens when your passion turns to prunes?  You STOP growing!

Don't use any excuse to see your dreams materialize.  They will come true if you keep believing in them.  Crawl, walk, run at your pace to achieve your goal - sometimes it takes weeks and sometimes it can take years.  The world is waiting...NO more prune like passion. (Posted by Roslyn)


What happens to a dream deferred?  Does it dry up like a raisin in the sun. ~Langston Hughes

Sunday, September 1, 2013

Labor Day Blessing!

Roslyn and I post each week based on inspiration.  Whatever inspires us, we share it with each of you.  I was ready to share some great news from last week but God directed me differently.  Today is Labor Day.  Twenty-four hours that most Americans have off from work to celebrate, rest and share with family and friends. 

Nearly five years ago I found myself laboring on Labor Day.  It turned out to be false labor pains but I was nearing the point of giving birth to my son.  Each day grew more challenging.  I became impatient and tried to take matters into my own hands.  I tried every "old wives tale" known to man to try and induce labor.  None of it worked.  At the end of the day, I had to wait patiently on God.

I am so blessed to be able to reflect on my birthing story because not every woman has one to share.  Some women find themselves having to wait patiently just to conceive.  With all their best efforts, conception is delayed.  Even though I have two beautiful children, there are six years between them.  I had to wait (longer than I would have wanted) to conceive my son.  I quickly realized for myself, the thirst to get pregnant is hard to quench until it happens.

On Labor Day, I thought it fitting to share scriptures that confirm God's desire for women to conceive and bring forth life.  Maybe you are the woman in waiting.  If so, this post is for you because God wanted me to share it.  Meditate on the following scriptures and believe with every fiber of your being, God's desire for your life.

Genesis 1:28 (MSG)
God created human beings; He created them godlike, Reflecting God’s nature.  He created them male and female.  God blessed them: “Prosper! Reproduce! Fill Earth! Take charge!  Be responsible for fish in the sea and birds in the air, for every living thing that moves on the face of Earth.”
 
Genesis 3:16 (MSG)
 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children;
 
Psalms 113:9 (MSG)
He gives childless couples a family, gives them joy as the parents of children.  Hallelujah!
 
For the women/mothers in waiting, may the peace of God overtake you and comfort you in every way.  Roslyn and I pray over your womb.  Every part of your body is in alignment with God's will.  We declare health, prosperity, and conception.  Happy LABOR Day! (Posted by Renee)