Sunday, June 22, 2014

Why Did I Get Married?

One of my favorite movies is "Why Did I Get Married?"  Even though it came out seven years ago, I still watch it every chance I get.  I can recite most of the lines in the movie so you know I was thrilled to see it playing numerous times this weekend on the BET network. 


In the movie, there's friction between the couples and they are forced to think about, "Why did I get married?"  During one of the conversations between the husbands, they make reference to an "80/20" rule.  There's a thought that you will only receive 80% of what you need from your marriage.  When someone comes along offering the 20% you're not receiving, it's easy to think that the grass is greener on the other side.  Some will find it easy to leave the 80% even though they will only receive 20% of what they need in the new relationship.  Watching the movie's reruns this weekend sparked a conversation between me and my husband. 

What do you NEED in your relationship?  What do you WANT in your relationship? 

When was the last time you asked your spouse or even fiancee that question?  If you're single, have you thought about your needs and wants so that you can share them with your future spouse?

It's essential to know what you want and what you need in a relationship.  What's a deal breaker for you if you aren't getting a certain need fulfilled?

17 years and counting!

It ended up being a great conversation that we hadn't discussed in quite awhile.  I thought I would share some of the needs we have of each other.

  • Spiritual Foundation

  • Trust

  • Respect

  • Communication

  • Feeling loved

My additional needs:

  • Affirmation

  • Protection

Marriage is the most powerful partnership in this world and too many marriages are breaking up and they don't need to.  God created us to be in relationship.  He created marriage and thought so highly of it, that it was used as a symbol of our relationship with Christ.  Read about its reference in Isaiah 54:5:

Your real husband is the one who made you.  His name is the Lord All-Powerful.  The Holy One of Israel is your Protector, and he is the God of all the Earth!
My hope with this post is to inspire a conversation.  Get to talking! (Posted by Renee)

Sunday, June 15, 2014

CHOICES...Clarity vs Confusion

If you are reading this it means that you are alive.  If you are alive that means that you are faced with choices.  Just like the air we breath, we get the opportunity daily to make choices in our life.  In fact:

You are the sum total of the choices made yesterday!

What will you choose today?

  • clarity vs confusion
  • late vs being prompt
  • sickness vs healing
  • sadness vs happiness
  • building vs destruction
  • frustration vs fortune
  • victim vs victorious
  • life vs death
"See, I set before you today life and prosperity, death and destruction". 
~Deuteronomy 30:15

Knowing that you have choices should cause us to stop and live life with intention.  Spend time daily figuring out what you "intend" or plan to accomplish everyday.  If you have no plan or vision, you perish.  In other words, when you don't set goals for yourself you exist in this life instead of bursting forth towards purpose and fulfillment.  

Making the right choices day after day is protection for your soul.  Now don't get me wrong, we all screw up along this journey but if we set out with intention, we lessen the mistakes we make along the way.

Ever wonder what your legacy will be?  It's actually easy to find out.  If I ask someone, "What do you think about _________ (insert your name)" and the person responds, ugh and shakes their head in detest, then that means you might not be succeeding in leaving a great legacy.  But If I ask someone about you and they say, "Him/her is a beautiful person, Or he/she is so patient and giving" then you are already sowing seeds of a lavish legacy that will last for years.

The challenge this week is for you to start sowing those seeds of positive intention.  Spend 10 minutes each day simply making a plan.  Be the driving force in the events that happen in your life - don't allow life to drive you and leave you behind.  

Roslyn's Fun Trivia:  Can you try and guess what my favorite words are?  

Well, if you are a faithful reader you know I love mornings.  They are sacred to me.  There's the favorite words are GOOD MORNING!  Not because it announces a time on the clock but because it announces a new season of awakening.  (Posted by Roslyn)

GOOD MORNING my love! A new day has begun.

Thursday, June 12, 2014

Fun Friday - Made for Summer!

In some parts of the country, school has ended and the official Summer fun has begun (June 21st is the official kick off to Summer). 

What is it that you crave about Summer?  

I celebrate Summer as the most stress free time of the year.  Winter brings Christmas spending and snow.  Fall brings back to school and the monotony of routine and schedules.  Spring brings rain showers and cancelled outdoor plans.  But Summer brings the HEAT with long days and spontaneity.

Here are a few reasons I crave Summer:

  • Longer days & more sunlight
  • HOT temperatures
  • Beaches
  • Sunsets
  • Family reunions
  • Late nights playing with the boys
  • Spontaneous plans
  • No school
  • No schedules
  • July 4th - Independence Day
  • Outdoor grilling
  • Sleeping in late
  • Road trips
  • Sports - World Cup/Summer Olympics
  • Bright colors & white pants
Send us a comment and let us know why you crave Summer! (Posted by Roslyn)

Sunday, June 1, 2014

We LOVE Maya Angelou!

What a woman of elegance

During the past week we learned of Maya Angelou's passing.  On our Facebook page, we posted a photo from the 90's with her.  It was such a pleasure to meet her.  She was truly a living legend.  She is a poet, writer, performer, teacher and director.  To say we love her is an understatement.  She was full of grace, beauty and wisdom.  God blessed her life tremendously and she shared that fact in so many of her appearances.  We couldn't let this week pass without honoring her in our blog.

A few of my book collection authored Maya Angelou

I've read her books, recited her poems, and listened intently when she read "On the Pulse of Morning", at the inauguration of President William Jefferson Clinton.  This was a memorable election for me because it was the first time I was of voting age.  To honor her I decided to share a few of her quotes from "Words of Hope & Courage".  Enjoy!

"We are living art, created to hang on, stand up, forbear, continue and encourage others."

"Hope has conspired with the wind and blown away the demons of despair."

"God puts rainbows in the clouds so that each of us - in the dreariest and most dreaded moments- can see a possibility of hope."

"It is not that I have confidence, but I believe if I fail, so what?  Now I have the chance to try again."

"Just as hope rings through laughter, it can also shine through tears."

To the woman who won three Grammys, speaks six languages, was awarded the Presidential Medal of Arts in 2000, and received over 50 honorary degrees, we celebrate you!  As her family stated in a statement on the day of her passing, "She was a warrior for equality, tolerance and peace."  She is truly one of the most renowned and influential voices of our time!

We will leave you with one of her famous poems, "Phenomenal Woman". (Posted by Renee)

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I'm not cute or built to suit a fashion model's size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I'm telling lies.
I say,
It's in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I'm a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It's the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I'm a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can't touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them
They say they still can't see.
I say,
It's in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I'm a woman

Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

Now you understand
Just why my head's not bowed.
I don't shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It's in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need of my care,
'Cause I'm a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.