Monday, March 12, 2012

Stop Your Kid Prayer

What do you desire for your children?  What request do you make of God for their future? 

Successful adulthood.  Loving spouse.  Homeownership.  Flourishing business.  Grandkids.

I'm sure we've all prayed along those lines when imagining their future and where God may take them once they leave the nest.  I've prayed this prayer even before my kids were conceived.  Envisioning and praying for success by today's world standards became effortless and simple. 

Last Friday changed my mindset.  The words that leaped off the page while reading, "Parenting Beyond Your Capacity" were profound and life changing.  The authors, Reggie Joiner and Carey Nieuwhof, suggest there are simply three prayers we should declare over our children.

  1. You want your children to become people who pursue a relationship with God.
  2. You want your children to become people who love others the way God does.
  3. You want your children to become people who see themselves the way God sees them.
Just imagine the magnitude of success established through these simple words.  Visualize the transformation in your child's self-image if they could see themselves as God sees them.  They would be able to know that they are precious in His sight despite their mistakes and shortcomings.  Even if you move beyond the parent-child relationship, it's just as impactful for the husband-wife relationship. 

Jesus said, "'Love the Lord your God with all your passion and prayer and intelligence.' This is the most important, the first on any list. But there is a second to set alongside it: 'Love others as well as you love yourself.' These two commands are pegs; everything in God's Law and the Prophets hangs from them."
Matthew 22:37-40 (MSG)

We are to seek the kingdom of God first.  Everything else we desire will be added if we would just align our will with His will.  Pray in a different way and expect a radical change! (Posted by Renee)

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  1. Hi Renee,
    This week we linked page 158 of Parenting Beyond Your Capacity back to page 139.
    "-it has to be in you before it can be in them.
    Moses implies that before you ask who your children are becoming, you have to examine who you are becoming."

    Are you:
    1. pursuing a relationship with God?
    2. loving others the way God does?
    3. seeing yourself the way God sees you?

    As we pray these 3 things for our children, with great passion and faith, let's include ourselves in those prayers and, as we live it out, be blessed just like our kids are being blessed.

    Dueteronomy 6:6,7a Amplified Bible
    6And these words which I am commanding you this day shall be [first] in your [own] minds and hearts; [then]

    7You shall whet and sharpen them so as to make them penetrate, and teach and impress them diligently upon the [minds and] hearts of your children,

    Cindy Smith

    1. Cindy,

      I enjoyed reading this chapter of the book. At the end of it all, what matters is whether or not you are living in a manner you desire for your kids. If it's good for them, it has to also be good for you.

      Thanks for being an excellent small group instructor!


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